Cooking Up Joy: A Meditation On Life’s Smallest, Greatest Pleasures

A reflection on the simple pleasure of grocery shopping.

Earlier this week I read a piece in Refinery29 by famed former Vogue Paris editor and authoress Joan Juliet Buck. Titled "Advice To My 26-Year-Old Self", the work was a reflective letter from a wisened woman who saw much in her life and found clarity as a result. Perhaps because I am the age cohort …

Hear Me Out: Let’s Talk About Love Without Attachment

For a long time I have been thinking about the concept of "love without attachment", and though I do not misunderstand this thinking to mean "lightness" or "avoidance", I still think that the concept deserves some re-examination. I understand it when people say, "How you feel, how I feel, that isn't our responsibility to one …

Most Days, Being Everything Feels Like The Only Option (Or: Hunger is Productive and a Guy’s Got To Eat)

Tomorrow morning, I'll wake up no later than 4:00 AM to start my day. I'll call out to one of the artificial intelligences now living in my home to brief me on world events, the hallucinogenic nightmare that is our current governmental situation, business and technology developments, and , maybe a tidbit or two from the …

What I Will Not Do Anymore

I am a remarkable human being, but I am no longer interested in allowing that to be the barometer by which I measure my sense of self-worth or joy. The idea that we must be these perfectly efficient, dynamic, palatable beings at all times is a scam and I won’t be putting my cognitive energy into this psychic racketeering job anymore.

These Resolutions Might Be Televised: 10 Themes for 2019 (Part 2)

Hi folks, and happy new year! I hope that your New Year's Eve celebrations were memorable and festive and that your New Year's Day was one spent relaxing, realigning, and preparing yourself for another 52 weeks of discovery, adventure, connection, joy, and triumph. As promised (albeit somewhat late—let's blame that on the festive New Year's …

Re: Abuse and Dangerous Rhetorical Tactics in response to Allegations of It

I just want to say that attempting to discredit people who publish accusations of abuse by claiming they “acted as if nothing was wrong” after the fact is a flawed and dangerous tactic that is damaging to all discourse about abuse—gendered abuse and sexual violence in particular. There are no shortage of abuse and sexual …